YOU KNOW WHAT DAY IT IS
2019 is so fucked i keep trying to google “feminist quotes on marriage” and “feminist quotes on being a wife” etc and 99.99% of the results are articles titled like “Yes, You Can be a Feminist and Still Love Being a Wife” and “20 Feminist Quotes About Marriage You Need to Read Right Now” and then you click the listicle and no lie it starts off with one audre lorde quote taken completely out of context and is followed by ones by john green, joss whedon, and ian somerhalder. Empowerment culture has given everyone brain worms and the only people who Get It are tween girls on tumblr who say stuff like “i want to shed my skin and eat dirt”
The modern everyday version of feminism being preached has become individualistic to the extreme. Women have been convinced that anything they choose to do is feminist simply because they are women exerting control over their own lives in order to achieve self fulfilment. the pro-wife, pro-consumer. pro-makeup, etc. brand of feminism isn’t progressive or revolutionary; it’s a brand of feminism that has been marketed towards us by big business in order to maintain the status quo and keep women subscribed to an economic system that is actively harmful to most of them.
Makeup brands target us with ads encouraging us to “express ourselves” by buying their products and upperclass white women who work as homemakers and mommy bloggers claim that all women can find fulfilment in marriage and motherhood simply because they have the luxury of finding happiness that way. It’s not feminism, it’s sanctioned conformity masquerading as individualism and empowerment.
one side of my brain is filled with love and the other side is filled with pokemon knowledge
in the middle? where the two meet??? heh. that’s where dunsparce lives.
straight person: well I tried to include gays in my creative work but then I remembered biological reproduction and heterosexual marriage are the sole fonts of meaning in the world and the source of all important relationships. I’m still pretty woke though because technically these characters could be bi
Also it’s not biphobic to point of that the devs are going to use “they could be bi” to shoehorn gay characters into a straight marriage bc they don’t care about bi people either they’re just using that excuse to justify their homophobia.
It’s also crazy because the thing that actually IS biphobic is that by positioning same sex relations as optional, its up to you kind of thing, but having the ‘het’ relationship aspect as to not only required but the end goal, the game is literally just pushing the ‘it’s just a phase/just having fun/ youre basically het’ shit bi people face all the time.
How someone could see this insulting mess as Bi Representation, or that fans angry their canonically gay/lesbian character has been forced into a straight relationship/traditional parenthood is somehow biphobia is fucking madness
we’re gonna have to start eatin hard cheese and cured salted meats again to try to dodge badly inspected food like just go ahead and give me a set of leather armor and send me on a quest if you’re so set on returning us to darker times
Being jealous and insecure is okay. Demanding that your friend or partner stop seeing their other friends isn’t.
Wanting attention is okay. Demanding your friend or partners attention 24/7 isn’t.
Being angry is okay. Taking your anger out on innocent people isn’t.
We can’t control our feelings and we shouldn’t attempt to, but we can and should work to control our reactions to said feelings.
